I think it's safe to say that relationships can be the most difficult and yet the most rewarding experiences of our lives. Psychotherapist and author, Esther Perel, says that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.
As human beings, we are born wired to connect, and those connections are vitally important to our happiness, sense of self, and sense of well being.
When we are in the first stages of Romantic love it is easy to be present, attentive, and in tune with our partner. Yet long term relationships can be challenging, and in time we may find that we are less in tune and are have many more moments of misunderstandings and conflict.
Daily life struggles (such as finances and children), and large life issues (such as addiction or infidelity) may intrude into our relationships. There may come a time when we feel torn about staying in our relationship or calling it a day and moving on.
Are you struggling to decide if you want to stay in your relationship? Or has your partner hinted that he/she may want out ? If so, Discernment Counseling may be for you.
There are many important things to consider when thinking about breaking up or staying together.
Discernment Counseling provides a structured time and place to think through what you really want for yourself, your life, and your partnership.
Discernment Counseling is not Couple's Counseling. It is a three to five session commitment in which each partner is seen individually and together with the only goal of deciding which direction you would like your relationship to take.
After Discernment Counseling you may decide to
- keep things as they are and go forward in your relationship without the expectation of change,
- break up and leave the relationship,
- or commit to the relationship for the next six months (without the threat of a breakup) and work to improve your relationship by participating in Couple's therapy.
Whatever path you choose, Discernment Counseling can help you decide.
Please contact me to make an appointment for Discernment Counseling today.